Until the subconscious pattern is changed, nothing will happen to change you permanently. For instance, if you have a pain, do you feel like being charming? I don't. When my subconscious reproduces something very uncomfortable, I don't feel in the least like being charming. And I have never known anyone who did.
Another thing these charm and personality schools forget is that you can't change any pattern unless you want to do so, consciously and subconsciously. If you are instinctively sincere you will radiate it. No psychologist, psychiatrist or charm school or anything else can make you sincere or insincere. You either are, or you aren't. and you are the only person who can change it if you are insincere. People who are insincere radiate insincerity - and the more they try to hide it, the more it sticks out, like a sore thumb.

"What you are thunders so that I cannot hear what you say", wrote Ralph Waldo Emerson - and this is completely true. You have all known people who are obviously trying to outdo others for the good they think they can get for themselves; or who like to pat others on the back although they don't give a rap about them. Such people may succeed in pulling the wool over the other fellow's eyes for a few weeks or months, but in the end the truth comes out, and they suffer by it.

So you must understand that your personality, if it is going to make any sort of impression must first have the quality of real sincerity. You do things for people because you want to, not because you feel you should, or you want something in return. You should like people; you should want to be fair. You must really want to do the things for others that you want them to do for you.

This is the abc of a truly charming personality, and unless you have sincerity behind that personality I don't care who says he can change you, he cannot. All he can do is to put on a new outer covering, and that can become awfully thin after a few wearings.

If you are like the average person, you do want to